I’ve been in the process of unlearning this bad advice for a while now, so I was happy to see this article on a study done about self-promotion. It found that people who were working to put forward an authentic, positive presentation of themselves were actually percieved more accurately by others than people who didn’t. From the article:
Those who actively tried to self-present were perceived more positively, and perceptions of their personality and intelligence (averaged across 24 items) were closer to their true (or measured) personality and intelligence than those who weren’t actively trying to self-present. Perceivers were also better able to detect differences in personality and intelligence among those in the positive-self presentation group compared to those in the non self-presentation group. In other words, receivers found it more difficult figuring out the personality and intelligence of those who weren’t actively trying to deliver a positive self-presentation.
IOW, not only is tooting your own horn not necessarily a bad thing, it’s probably a necessary thing for others to develop an accurate view of who we are. I still struggle with this and often feel misunderstood as a result, so I particularly appreciate getting some re-assurances that it’s OK to show people just how wonderful I actually am! ;p
For those of us who struggle with this, there is also this:
Prior research shows that when people are motivated to advance their own agenda, they are able to override an initial negative bias. If you are a shy individual who finds yourself extremely reactive to the initial reactions of others, take heart to know that their initial perceptions can be overriden by taking control of the situation and showing them your best and true self. Don’t take things at face value and walk away in defeat. You can control the interaction. Hang in there!
Yay! That’s excellent news to me as well. Even if you are shy and neurotic like I often feel, there’s always a good way forward.
Anyhow, as you can see, this article made me happy. Thankfully, it doesn’t take much! 🙂
HT: Hoagies Gifted Education Page for the link!