We need to make peace with the reality that not knowing what to do is normal. It doesn’t mean you or anyone else has done something wrong. It’s OK. As often as not, you just have to wing it and hope for the best. The trick is not to worry about the fact that you are winging it. Instead, keep your head and take a note of the results of whatever you decide to do. Experience is a much better teacher than who ever was in charge of that “how to be a human” school!