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The Upside Down World ~ The Blog

Nov 21, 2011
1 min

Know Thine Self

Occassionally take some time to listen to yourself. Sit quietly and think of a topic or question you are interested in. Usually, when...

Nov 18, 2011
1 min

Learning to avoid conflict

As a rule, if the conflict is triggered by your emotional state (I’m crabby) or an emotional reaction (you’re pissing me off), it’s...

Nov 18, 2011
1 min

Learning to tolerate conflict

To start learning to tolerate conflict, first try speaking up for yourself in a situation where you would normally keep quiet. Sometimes...

Nov 17, 2011
1 min

Being right is not the most important thing

We humans have a strange obsession with being right. Not only do we tend to think we’re always right and be very resistant to thinking...

Nov 15, 2011
2 min

Easy Listening

I love to talk. That came naturally to me. I also love to listen, but I had to learn that. Some people don’t find talking naturally...

Nov 15, 2011
1 min

Looking for the Good – People Edition

Believe it or not, figuring out what’s good about people is a great past-time as well. It’s challenging, satisfying and makes you feel...

Nov 14, 2011
2 min

Your Brain is a Great Place to be Wrong

In your head, you can be wrong as often as you need to be until you find ideas and ways of doing things that work for you. I can make a...

Nov 11, 2011
3 min

You are not my friend – the list

Unfortunately, history does tend to repeat itself. Now that I’m going through the worst time of my life since that summer over 16 years...

Nov 10, 2011
4 min

Much-Ado-About-Feelings

For example, earlier this year I had a chance to learn massage therapy from a crazy, old, hippy, Christian massage and hypnotherapist. ...

Nov 9, 2011
1 min

Hypocrisy Check

If your BS detector goes off, that’s a good thing. Because if you are struggling just like someone else, then you should be...

Nov 8, 2011
2 min

Stages of Forgiving

That’s the offer of forgiveness we all want to take. But when it comes to forgiveness between us humans, as far as the east is from the...

Nov 7, 2011
1 min

When Someone You Love is Making a Big Mistake

Here’s why: you may be correct, and if you are, your friend or neighbor or relative is going to need support when things fall apart. If...

Nov 7, 2011
2 min

Steps to Forgiveness

Forgiveness is absolutely essential, but sometimes our hurts are just so big. Here are some steps I have found useful in getting to a...

Nov 6, 2011
1 min

Change and Brain Habits

We’ve all had the experience of changing jobs or moving and then catching ourselves mindlessly turning in the direction of the old job or...

Nov 5, 2011
1 min

Ways To Pray For An Enemy

2. “Lord, please help this person stop doing terrible things.” 3. “Lord, please turn this person’s heart towards you so he can change.”...

Nov 2, 2011
2 min

Lookin’ for Love

We need to feel loved so badly that its like a need to eat. And yet many of us are ignoring a steady stream of love that comes our way...

Nov 1, 2011
1 min

Practice Forgiveness Day!

Forgiving = Freedom Pick a day this week to deliberately forgive anything and everything that bugs you. Traffic? “I forgive you idiots...

Sep 28, 2011
4 min

I asked God to hit my husband with a bus

And then there are the cursing psalms. In her memoir, Phyllis Pickle, who writes devotionals to help people “pray the hours” talks...

Sep 26, 2011
3 min

What Olivia is Teaching Me

Then there are the things she gets backwards. We’ve been encouraging Olivia to talk because she’s so good at communicating using body...

Sep 16, 2011
7 min

A Letter to a Young Black Man

Andrew, I saw your post from earlier and wanted to check and see if you are OK. I have been meaning to write you anyways because...