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The Upside Down World ~ The Blog

Jan 18, 2017
6 min

Going High When They Go Low Isn’t How You Win; You Gotta Fight to Win

There’s an interesting interview with cognitive linguist George Lakoff going around in which he discussed this problem. His thesis,...

Jan 12, 2017
6 min

Stop Arguments Online Like a Mom

My husband is completely convinced that there are Jews somewhere in my Polish lineage. Because three of my great joys in life are being...

Dec 21, 2016
7 min

All People Are Real

I’ve mentioned a couple of times now that I have a dissociative disorder. A derealization disorder, in fact. Which means that when my...

Dec 14, 2016
2 min

The Empath and The Narcissist

Empaths are people who tend to feel and absorb other people’s emotions. Narcissists are people whose only concern is for themselves. When...

Dec 10, 2016
1 min

Staying Safe Among Snakes

One of the things I learned back in college which has helped to keep me safe among snakes for decades now is that sociopaths will...

Dec 9, 2016
1 min

#stopempoweringsociopaths

There are sociopaths among us. And if we pretend that there are not, if we insist that everyone just assume the best and look for the...

Nov 22, 2016
4 min

Thanksgiving Family Survival Guide – 2016 Edition

Such a pretty picture. Now imagine that they all hate each other. An oldie but a goody! BTW, if you read these and know exactly what I’m...

Oct 12, 2016
5 min

Rules For the Wilderness: Do What You Can

Yesterday I shared a vision of a walled city and falling towers which you should go read if you haven’t already. In the vision, the area...

Jul 28, 2015
8 min

Good Luck With That “Normal” Thing

Perhaps you have heard that I have some children. Entirely more than a respectable woman ought to have, in fact. I have even heard tell...

Oct 27, 2014
3 min

Does Forgiving Demand Restoring Relationship?

One of the problems that people commonly struggle with when it comes to forgiveness is the issue of the restoration of relationships. Can...

Sep 6, 2014
4 min

Enough Bigotry to Go Around?

Hey y’all! I just finished my fancy pants appearance on Moody Radio’s Up For Debate. (That I told you about yesterday which you would...

Jun 17, 2014
4 min

THIS

This is what God would want those who claim his name to hear today. Like really today. Right here in the reality that is whatever day it...

Jun 11, 2014
1 min

Things to Say to Someone Who Is Suffering

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It makes me sad/angry to see what you’re going through. You deserve better. It won’t always be...

May 29, 2014
5 min

The Bad Habit You Must Let Go Of

Have you ever had the experience of telling someone that they are hurting you only to be met with hostility, accusations, shaming and...

May 14, 2014
6 min

Manhunt for Peace in the Dark Heart of Africa

You know my thing about Africa that I’ve mentioned a couple of times lately? Well, allow me to share a story out of the Congo and Uganda....

Apr 7, 2014
4 min

Forgiving Is Hard, Not Impossible

One of my many idiosyncratic beliefs is that Africa has a special role to play in God’s upside down kingdom. For so long, Africa has been...

Apr 3, 2014
3 min

Being Kind Without Being Hurt

My mother always taught me that you can never go wrong being kinder than necessary. I believe that this is true and have tried to live my...

Mar 31, 2014
1 min

When You Can’t Agree

It is one thing to oppose what you think is messed up; it’s a whole other thing to be and live the alternative. ~ Jim Palmer At some...

Mar 30, 2014
4 min

What Not Judging Is and Is Not

I wrote last week about not judging as a form of spiritual discipline. It occurs to me that part of our problem with not judging is that...

Mar 27, 2014
4 min

The Hardest, Best Spiritual Practice I’ve Ever Tried

Learning how not to judge has been the most demanding, arduous and painful spiritual discipline I have ever undertaken. It’s also been...